Gaining confidence in your own abilities and instincts is key to achieving your best potential and the greatness that lies within you. You need to be able to trust yourself and your skill-set in order to handle life’s challenges well or be seen as someone who can make a positive difference and/or impact in people’s lives. If you don’t have confidence in your own abilities and instincts, others won’t either, and you could end up feeling like you’re being held back from the things you truly want out of life even though you know you have what it takes to make things happen.

1. Remember your past successes and accomplishments

To gain more confidence in your abilities and instincts, first, think back to the successes you’ve already had in life. And don’t act like you don’t have any, because we both know that that is an entire lie. This can be doing well in a course, getting your first job, being hired in the working world for the first time as a professional, etc. Look back at alllllll of the things you thought you couldn’t pull off but did, and look back at the even “smaller” wins that you tend to glaze over. It may not seem like it sometimes, but you have been winning, even if you don’t think those wins are big enough or that they don’t “count”. Theee best thing you can do for yourself right now is to stop sleeping on yourself and your successes. You have them and they count. The sooner you believe this to be true, the sooner your confidence and belief will increase that you have everything it takes to live the life that you envision. You may just need a little help getting to your next level of success, is all.

2. Do things that will get your closer to your desired outcome

Second, you’re gonna have to come up out of that comfort zone and do the things that will get you closer to accomplishing your ultimate goal. Are you looking to increase the visibility of your business? Guess what you’re gonna have to do? BE SEEN. Even though you may feel like a fish out of water and hate every second of it. It sucks, but it’s gotta be done.. Think of it this way: do you remember when you first learned how to drive? Me personally, I was like “the car is so heavyyyyyyyyyyy” and was veering all up in the grass because I thought the car was too heavy for me to control.. Now, I drive miles and remember none of it.. I’ve missed my exit numerous times and have ended up home without even realizing it.. That’s what happens when you practice something enough times: it becomes second nature and no longer seems hard.. Most things only seem hard because we’ve never done them before.

3. Pay attention to your body and discern what it may be trying to tell you

Third, listen to how your body reacts to certain things. It is trying to tell you something and it is up to you to discern what that is. Have you ever been in a situation where you felt something probably wasn’t going to end well, based on past experiences, knowing yourself and what probably isn’t going to be good for you, but you did it anyway and it ended up actually not being good for you like you originally felt? We go against our initial feelings for a lot of reasons. Sometimes it’s because we know that we aren’t healed in an area and don’t want to make another mistake, because we are used to people telling us we should feel something different, or maybe because we went with a “gut feeling” before and things ended up going very badly because of it. Either way, most of us let other people weigh in on our final decision in some capacity. That is normal. But what isn’t, is not paying attention to how your body feels about it and learning what it’s trying to tell you.. It doesn’t have to be bad and could be something as simple as “this makes me uncomfortable because I’ve never done it before”, so your palms are sweaty and your stomach is in knots because it’s your first time asking for a raise, pitching for a promotion, being on tv, or telling someone you love them for the first time. That’s natural.

Give yourself some credit. You may not be the ideal you yet, but you’re pretty damn close… Closer than you think, anyways. Treat yourself with some respect and dignity because you are amazeballs and there’s no debating me on it. So don’t try.

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After going from suicidal ideation, shrinking herself, and suffering in silence in 2020 to taking steps towards creating the life she wanted to live and making two 30 Under 30 lists in 2021, she now uses her experience to help others learn to overcome the barriers that prevent them from living up to their potential.

In addition to being a Certified Master Life Coach, she is a Certified: Mindfulness, Happiness, Life Purpose, Goal Success, Professional, and Mental Health Life Coach.

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In May of last year, I lost my job, my life was a barely contained mess, and I’d faced so much that I was on the cusp of losing my mind. But by the grace of God (and three months of therapy), I did the mental work I needed to do to heal, get whole and be happy.

It sounds simple, but of course it wasn’t. It took a lot of intentional work. 

I knew what I’d always envisioned my life looking like, and I identified the actions that were holding me back. Then, I threw a lot of spaghetti at the wall, trying to figure out what would work and what wouldn’t. It was an arduous process, but once I started seeing success in certain areas, I created courses to help other people going through similar things. 

By May of this year, I’d successfully put most of my demons to rest, launched two companies, published my first book (now sold in Walmart), made two 30 Under 30 lists, and will be in Forbes Magazine NYC Print Edition. 

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